How do adolescents hear their parents ‘ advice about the future?



The theme of designing the future corresponds to the age tasks of older adolescents, but becomes a source of tension in families long before the children finish school. When children reach adolescence, communication is rebuilt in families, and dialogue between children and parents is often difficult. The article discusses the features of what parental statements about the future of adolescents sound in the presentation of adolescents themselves. There are described 20 typical forms of statements about the future faced by modern adolescents from their relatives, that have a different focuses — on the child, on his/her family and on the social environment. Their advantages and disadvantages and possible psychological effects are analyzed; the representation of categories of statements in groups of adolescents of different age and sex and students in different organizations is compared. The necessity of organization of constructive discussions of the future between the teenager and his social environment is proved.

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Keywords: adolescence, future design, professional choice, statement, parental order, discussion of the future, generation, parent-child relationship

Journal rubric: Applied Research and Practice

Article type: scientific article


For citation: Bochaver A.A., Khlomov K.D., Korneev A.A., Zhilinskaya A.V. How do adolescents hear their parents ‘ advice about the future?. Sotsial'naya psikhologiya i obshchestvo = Social Psychology and Society, 2019. Vol. 10, no. 2, pp. 157–174. DOI: 10.17759/sps.2019100212. (In Russ., аbstr. in Engl.)


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Information About the Authors

Alexandra A. Bochaver, PhD in Psychology, Researcher, Center for Modern Childhood Studies, Institute of Education, National Research University “Higher School of Economics”, Moscow, Russia, ORCID:, e-mail:

Kirill D. Khlomov, PhD in Psychology, Head of the Psychological Service, Senior Researcher, Cognitive Research Laboratory, Faculty of Psychology, Russian Presidential Academy of National Economy and Public Administration, Moscow, Russia, ORCID:, e-mail:

Alexey A. Korneev, PhD in Psychology, Senior Research Fellow, Laboratory of Neuropsychology, Department of Psychology, Lomonosov Moscow State University, Moscow, Russia, ORCID:, e-mail:

Alisa V. Zhilinskaya, PhD in Psychology, Psychologist, University School, Lomonosov Moscow State University, Moscow, Russia, e-mail:



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